Buttontapper Challenge: Day 14

14. Accountability – Let’s get accountable: share your goals for this week!

Since it is a new year, there are a number of tasks I try to complete before the end of each January. I’ll try to knock two of them out this week:

  • Create 2018 folders for the filing cabinet for those reports and notes that come in by email or snail mail that must be kept for tax or other financial reasons.
  • Reset all my passwords for online accounts.

A third of these routine new year tasks I completed by January 1: creating new 2018 folders on my laptop. There are a few items in the 2017 folders I need to move into the 2018 versions. I’ll do that as the needs arise.

Another remains: update Quicken to be ready for tax preparation time. Since we never receive all the 1099 reports until the end of January, I set this goal for January 31.

 

 

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Buttontapper Challenge: Day 13

Mentors – Do you have any past (or present) mentors? Tell us a little bit about them!

While I have always sought to learn from the examples of others, I have never had a discussion with anyone where the word mentor or mentoring was used, except in the world of Toastmasters.

Am I too old for a mentor now? Should I look for someone living a full life of retirement and ask that person to be my mentor? Do I need help? Let me think about that.

Photo credit: Dane Deaner

Buttontapper Challenge: Day 12

Coaches – Who are some of the people who have coached you to success along the way?

Answering this question could take some time. And will be long. There are so many, though I’m sure not all the people I’ve learned from would consider themselves my coaches or even know they passed on lessons.

  • Mom and Dad, of course. I never felt they wanted my life to turn out a certain way. They didn’t pressure me to decide to be a teacher, or not to be a teacher. They didn’t pressure me to get married, or not to get married. I always felt they expected me to do my best and that my best would be something special. But I had to make the decisions for myself. Sometimes I knew they were disappointed in my choices. But they allowed me to make my decisions.
  • My teachers. Those I remember most are those who didn’t teach me subjects; they taught me how to use the knowledge I gained through the subjects to be a better version of me. One elementary school teacher in particular helped me deal with my biggest challenge, that tears came all too easily to me and that led to my classmates calling me “Crybaby.” He didn’t join the chorus of other adults who told me repeatedly that I was too old to cry, that I should just stop it. He told me to think of actors (he probably said actresses, I admit) who sometimes need to cry while on the stage or being filmed, even if they don’t feel like crying. He made me feel that being able to express my emotions easily was a gift, not a curse. He helped me see I just needed to learn when to keep the emotions inside and when to let them show instead of thinking I had to keep them all inside all the time. He got me to think about what I could do, not what I should stop doing.
  • My earliest bosses–all men. I learned from all of them, even the one who fired me when I was 19 because I didn’t show him the respect he expected. He was right. I acted on the basis of an assumption and left a note criticizing him where I knew he would see it. My next day at work, he didn’t yell at me or argue with me. He just explained that he no longer needed me on the staff. He gave me my final check that included the hours through the end of my shift. He expected I would leave right away. I stayed. And I learned later that he said he respected me for staying even though he had fired me. Through the experience, I learned to examine my first impressions instead of acting on assumptions. I probably would have learned that lesson anyway, but it was a lesson best learned sooner than later.
  • My women bosses. There aren’t many of them, especially since my career left me changing bosses about every seven to fourteen months as either I moved to my next assignment or a new boss rotated into the post of my current assignment. Alice Bens at the American Language Institute in San Francisco. Shirley Milgrom at American Guidance Service in Circle Pines, MN. Marilyn Hoffman and Mary Stearns at CPT in Eden Prairie, MN. Mary McAteer and Jane Whitney at the US Consulate General in Stuttgart, Germany. Margaret Murphy and Barbro Owens at the US Embassy in Bridgetown, Barbados. Mary Pendleton at the US Embassy in Chisinau, Moldova. Debra Jones at the US Embassy in Abu Dhabi, United Arab Emirates. Barbara Bodine at the US Embassy in Sanaa, Yemen. Margaret Dean at the Department of State in Washington, DC. The thread that connects those I benefited from most is that they provided guidance on how to be a better me, not a better teacher or children’s educational materials writer or software engineer or Foreign Service Officer.
    • I believe Mrs. Bens (we would never dare call her by her first name) considered herself a coach for all who worked for her. Her job was to turn us into teachers of English as a Second Language who would move into permanent positions elsewhere.
    • Marilyn asked the typical questions during performance reviews (Where do you see yourself in five years?) and then provided guidance on how to get there, even when my honest, but foolish, answer was that I expected to join the US Department of State as a Foreign Service Officer, not the more politically correct response of wanting to move into a supervisory position at CPT, the company that employed us both.
    • Margaret Murphy was a tough supervisor who insisted her staff do things her way. After a few months I concluded that either she didn’t think I had the makings of a good Foreign Service Officer or she just didn’t like me very much. But once I moved into a new position at the same embassy, she became my biggest booster. If I had needed a publics relations representative, I would have chosen Margaret.
    • Mary Pendleton demonstrated how quiet power and authority accomplished more than bluster and insistence, the tactics I had observed so many of my male supervisors use. Her example helped me accept that I didn’t have to change who I am at my core to succeed, though my definition of success might not match the definitions others would try to impose on me.
  • Writer friends who encourage me to keep writing even while they point out when what I’ve written isn’t the best it could be. Among them are Lola Sparrowhawk Kohen, Caroline McCullagh, Dave Feldman, Syd Love, Al Converse, Susan Burns, Ken Yaros, Chavah Siegel, John Robinson, Rivkah Sleeth, Audrea Listz, Chaya Schonberger, George Geller, Johnnie Thompson, Lydia Hilton, and Sally Eckberg from my Wednesday morning read-and-critique group.
  • Writer friends I met through the San Diego Writers and Editors Guild, especially the Board of Directors: Ruth Leyse-Wallace, Mardie Schroeder, Bob Doublebower, Marcia Buompensiero, Laurie Asher, Rick Peterson, Gered Beeby, Dave Feldman, Simone Arias, Val Zolfaghari, Anne Janda, Janet Hafner, Frank Newton, Laura Roberts, Adolpho Sanchez, and Ken Yaros,
  • My husband, who keeps pointing out that I can’t add any more activities to my schedule or I’ll not complete the tasks I have already committed to doing, at the same time as he tells me I can accomplish anything I set out to do. And that he’ll be there if I fall down.

The last three bullets look like a draft for an acknowledgements page for my work-in-progress. An appropriate point to wrap this one up, I think.

 

Buttontapper Challenge: Day 11

Digital or Analog? – Are you more into digital or analog systems for keeping up with everything in your life? Why?

This is a no brainer. Digital all the way.

That’s why I tried the Fitbit. I had hoped it would capture the information on my activity so that I wouldn’t have to keep up transferring information to my spreadsheets manually. But it wasn’t successful. Maybe I wasn’t patient enough.

That’s why I use Goodreads to help me track not only my reading activity but my reading goals (though I won’t join in their challenge this year because that sidetracked me last year).

That’s why I decided to increase my use of Google calendar instead of buying a notebook to use for journaling and goal keeping. If I have to pick up a physical thing or two–notebook and pen–in order to track my thoughts, I’ll have to keep them with me all the time. I’m already keeping my phone with me all the time. I don’t want to have to lug more stuff than that.

So, I’m digital. All the time. Enough said.

Buttontapper Challenge: Day 10

Tools – What kinds of tools do you use to help with your self-improvement goals?

I’ve tried a lot of tools. Everything works for awhile. But none do the work for me.

For tracking my heath, I’ve tried the following:

  • Pedometers and Fitbit for tracking activity related to health goals.
  • Building a 0-5-10-25 spreadsheet using data points based on General Electric’s Health by the Numbers plan. The numbers stand for daily goals: 0 cigarettes, 5 portions of fruits and vegetables, 10,000 steps, body mass index of 25 or less. I added a fifth metric–waist size–because I know fat that builds up on internal organs, around the waist level, can slow down their functioning. The American Medical Association and National Institute of Health recommend women’s waistlines not exceed 35 inches. This Harvard School of Public Health page explains why.
  • Transferring the data to a spreadsheet where I graph out the results so I can see at a glance whether I’m improving or at least not backsliding. And once I attended one of statistician and artist Edward Tufte’s one-day seminars on representing data visually, I figured out a way to consolidate that data to cover years worth of data instead just a month at a time. The chart below illustrates how I kept track of five years’ worth of data from January 2008 through December 2012.

Note, however, that since 2012 I haven’t continued using this system. You can also see the year-long gap in 2009 when I didn’t keep it up. But if I decide the graphic reminders will help me, I’m ready.

For tracking my reading and research for my works-in-progress, I use Goodreads.

  • I include books about subjects I plan to research on separate shelves in addition to their “Want to Read,” “Reading,” and “Read” shelves. Right now I have shelves for Iran and China, two regions I need to read more about for the works-in-progress I’m writing or planning.
  • I add books I know are in the library to the “Want to Read” shelf when I already have too many books out on loan.
  • This year, I plan to refer to my Goodreads shelves before I load up on more used books that will otherwise distract me from the books I want to read.

For general planning, I’ve expanded my use of Google calendar to take advantage of the Goals and Reminders options.

The Goals feature allows me to specify how much time and how often I want to spend on an activity. The Google calendar figures out when to schedule the activity, based on other events I already have on my calendar each day. It reminds me of the goal ahead of time. And it prompts me to record either that I completed it or that I need to reset it for later when the scheduled time has passed. It also shows me how many times out of my goal number I completed the activity for the current week and at least the week before.

 

I’ve even begun adding Reminders for the expiration date of those $4.00 off coupons from CVS so I don’t just miss using it by a day or two. I don’t expect it will save me a fortune, but sometimes pennies count.

 

Buttontapper Challenge: Day 9

Motivation – Where do you find your motivation on days when it’s hard to keep pressing on?

I look at my husband, whether he’s awake and reading a book, or asleep in the bed or on the couch napping. I look at him and that always brings me a smile.

I look at our son and his wife. When I do, I can’t believe how lucky I am to have them in my life.

I look at our grandchildren. They tire me out, but always with a smile. I know I have to figure out a way to spend time with them that is quieter, less frantic, in order to introduce them to the power of patience and waiting to see what will come.

I look for the people in my community–my church community, my writing community, my civic community. They challenge me to do something good for others and that always ends up bringing more good into my life.

Do Something Great

Those are the things that motivate me, by reminding me of how blessed my life is. With their support, I know I can do something great.

Photo credit: Clark Tibbs

Buttontapper Challenge: Day 8

Monthly Challenges – Do you participate in any other monthly challenges? Which ones, and why (or why not)?

In addition to this challenge, I hope to take part again in the April A to Z Challenge. The rewards for completing that one in 2016 were tremendous. Through my “E is for Eritrea” post, one of the boys on the soccer team I supported, now a 27-year-old young man, found me, giving me a most welcome early Christmas present this year.

automat machine with lettered buttons

Two monthly challenges is enough this year.

Photo credit: Diomari Madulara